To Love and Hate in Moderation

To Love and Hate in Moderation🌹

Many of us have had relationships with friends or spouses that started off with love and loyalty and ended with hatred and bitterness.

This is a sad ending to many relationships, unfortunately, but our Prophet (peace be upon him) gave us advice which would help us navigate relationships from the beginning in a much healthier, stable way.

He (peace be upon him) said:

“Love whom you love mildly, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate mildly, perhaps he will become your beloved someday.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Sahih)

Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us to do everything with moderation and not go to extremes with anything, even with our relationships with other people. This is why Allah calls our Ummah “the balanced Ummah”:

”Thus, We have made you a justly balanced ummah.” (Quran 2:143)

Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction.”

It was asked, “How is this?”

Umar replied, “When you love someone, you become infatuated like a child. When you hate someone, you love destruction for him.” (Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Sahih)

All humans have flaws and all humans change, so it is wise to only expect perfection and stability from Allah. Our perfect Lord is the only One who is whole and complete in all His attributes and He is the only One who will always be there for us when we turn to Him.